Hi! We are Nate and Jess. First and foremost, we want to thank you! Thank you so much for taking the time to look at our profile and hear our story. We really appreciate you considering us as prospective parents. What a beautiful thing you are considering and how strong you must be!
The prospect of having a child in our life is a dream that we have hoped and prayed for for so long. All the hard work that we have put into preparing a home and life for a child, we are so excited to put to good use. There are so many things that we look forward to sharing with a child, but perhaps the one thing we look forward to the most is the simplest: the love and affection that only a mom and dad can provide.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
We had a terrific time at Jess's Aunt and Uncle's farm! From roasting marshmallows to feeding the alpacas, the day was packed with family fun. It was the first time our 9 month old neice got to meet this side of the family. The new addition to the family was showered with love and affection. We can't wait to adopt a child of our own... they will certainly love family get-togethers on the farm. ❤
Lots of precious time spent with the nieces 💕 We took the 9 month old to her first art museum to see the Frida Kahlo exhibit at the Portland Museum of Art! Aunt Jess also helped her 12 year old niece address a letter to her new pen pal (aka. to our other neice in Indiana)!! Then we put the babe in the stroller and the 3 of us walked to the neighborhood post office. So sweet!
The islands in the Pacific NW are so beutiful and gathering up all the goodies that the land and sea in the area offer at the local farmers market was so much fun! Nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandma, and even sasquatch, all found someting to snack on or take home for the planned family dinner.
We were so lucky to get together with Jess' family on what ended up being a gorgeous sunny day for a Memorial Day BBQ. Her brother's family drove up from Oregon, cousins came from Seattle, and the aunts, uncles, and cousins who live on the island were such awesome hosts. Can't wait til next year when hopefully our baby niece Skye will have a younger cousin we can bring with us!
He had such a great time on such a beuatiful day at Pike's Market! There is always so much to see and do in Seattle but this quick stop on our way to Jess' Aunt and Uncle's farm was just perfect. We checked out some art, picked up lots of fresh fruit, bread, flowers, and even snacked on few Piroshkies with brother Scott and baby niece Skye!
Every Sunday, we drive 40min into town to join Nate's family for dinner at his parents' lake house. Nate made peanutbutter cookies! And Jess baked two of her famous French Canadian sugar pies! This past Sunday was a special occasion. All of Nate's siblings and their families got together to celebrate Aunt Kelley's birthday! Yay! The cousins and their friends were swimming in the pool and playing jenga on the porch. The adults were laughing and bonding over the question, "[Teenage Nephew] really likes classic movies. What movies should we watch with him this summer?" From Jaws to Field of Dreams to old Hitchcock films to sports movies... we had a blast discussing what everyone's favorite movies are and why. Burgers, hot dogs, brats, salad, baked beans, and asparagus. Followed by desserts made by Nate & Jess. 😁 So fun!
What a beautiful day at the Art Institute ❤ Mother's Day has become a lovely tradition of seen art and eating Asian food in Chicago with my best friend and love of my life. Mother's Day and Father's Day are never easy for those who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss. We experienced nearly a decade of loss, much of which was suffered silently. Our eldest daughter would be 8 this year, our youngest child 3. The loss of children does not get easier over time. You just learn how to move through it without falling apart. Coping with reawakened grief can be tricky. For us, when things get tough, we have learned that taking a quick getaway is the perfect strategy to get out of the fog and breathe. Creating new positive memories on death anniversaries and on holidays is important to us. Getting away from the day, going to a big city getting lost in the crowd, eating good food, and seeing art is one healthy helpful way of getting through the holiday… so that's what we did. Last year we saw the extraordinary quilter, Lisa Butler. This year there were 2 textile exhibits!! The English Arts and...
Two years ago we got a border collie puppy. A breed of his type needs a lot of space to run. Our back yard became a muddy race track. So, as soon as the snow melted, we cleared the yard and laid down some fresh sod. We love big projects like this. The grassy backyard is ready for a sweet young child to run around in! We can't wait to host many summer get-togethers ❤
Every May, Jess and her mother go to the cemetery to scrub the family tombstones and weedwack around them. Many of our relatives served in WWI, WWII, the Korean War, and Vietnam. We plant red and white flowers and put American flags next to their graves.
This is a belated post, but thought it was nice to add nonetheless... Nate's side of the family has a wonderful, multi-generational tradition of going to the panhandle of Florida for Spring Break every year. Unfortunetly, because the seven nieces and nephews all have different spring breaks this year, the FL tradition got moved to a different month. And instead, Nate's mom, Nana spontaneously decided to take a small group of us to Southern California for 4 days! Nana is the best! Jess was born and raised in San Diego, so she jumped at the idea of showing off her hometown and organized a fun-packed travel gameplan! 😄 We spent one day sightseeing LA. We explored the Griffith Observatory, the Walk of Fame, the Chinese Theater, the LaBrea tarpits, the Santa Monica pier, and then watched the sunset on Venice Beach. Jess's 15-year-old nephew was beyond thrilled to skateboard at the skate park on Venice Beach. What day!
What an amazing opportunity to be able to show the Indiana side of the family where Jess is from! From teaching her neice and nephew to surf, to exploring the tidepools, to eating at In-N-Out Burger, to walking the flower fields, to seeing pelicans and sea lions and baby seals, to sightseeing CA's oldest mission in Old Town San Diego, and eating real Mexican food..... it was an incredible trip! It was the greatest, most heartwarming, memorable experience to share her CA home with this part of her Indiana family! Seeing her niece and nephew learn to surf brought on many happy tears! Having grown up on the beach and spending hours on end surfing, exploring tidepools, fishing, and building sandcastles... it was essentially her playground growing up. Jess' Dad still lives in the house she grew up in. Our adopted child will have many holidays and summers at the Pacific Ocean. ❤️
This year we hosted a small Easter brunch at our house. Jess' mom, uncle, and aunt came over. Jess works for a hospital and they gifted employees a ham. So Nate made cooked a picture-perfect delicous ham, while Jess made a big salad and breakfast casserole. Her aunt and uncle brought over the homemade spicy mustard and pie. And Grandma Candy brought the Easter candy and daffodils 😊 Next year, Grandma Candy said she is hosting the Easter egg hunt! (She does has the perfect manicured backyard full of daffodils, three elm trees, lush grass, and a big outdoor patio. Perfect for young kids to safely explore!)
Back in March, we celebrated St Patrick's Day... It fell on a weeknight this year, so instead of going to our local Irish restaurant, we made some corned beef and cabbage at home. Jess' mom, Grandma Candy came over and joined us! Fun Fact #1 - Grandma Candy lives close and comes over for dinner all the time! Fun Fact #2 - Nate is the best cook in the family! He loves any excuse to make a feast and host a get-together Fun Fact #3 - Jess went to Cathoilic school for nearly 11 years
Jess lost her grandmother a year ago. As the holidays approached, she could not stop talking about how she missed her grandmother’s cooking. A traditional part of Christmas in Quebec is the “tourtière,” a French Canadian meat pie. Not something you can just pick up at the local grocery store or find on your average recipe website. So, after careful consideration of COVID precautions, and well thought out stopping points, we decided to go for it. We got in the car and drove 11 hours to Montreal, QC in search of a taste of Jess’ Christmas tradition. And we found it! Jess cried. We hugged. And we brought home six frozen tourtières packed neatly in a cooler.
We have been working for some time on setting up the perfect nursery. So when the big day comes, we are ready to go! Here is a little sneak peek!
It has been such a fun weekend with Jess' Dad visting from San Diego! He is always down for getting out and about to celebrate fall here in Indiana. We took him to one of our favorite Amish farmer's market to stock up on yummy gourds to make for dinner and get a few finishing touches for our Halloween decorating. I know "Grandpa" is ready to have a little one join the fun!
It's our tradition to go to pumpkin patches in the fall. There’s something lovely about all of the little orange blobs scattered across an open field while kids and parents mill about looking for the perfect addition to bring home to decorate their home for Halloween. Some may end up being carved, painted, or left in their full, round, pumpkin glory. Nate and I dream of the day that we can bring children of our own to the pumpkun pitchman! There are so many pumpkin patches and corn mazes in our area. What a great place to have a back and forth conversation with curious little minds! Asking them questions and talking to them about what the seasons are, what they look like, feel like, smell like, and sound like. Then going home and carving pumpkins while drinking hot apple cider and watching old Halloween cartoons. What fun!
We are BIG movie fans. So when we get a chance to stop and see a landmark from one of our favorite movies, we always make sure get off the beaten path and stop for a photo. Searching for fun, silly, and strange places to visit is one of our favorite ways to travel. Here is Nate in front of the house from the 1985 movie classic "The Goonies" 📽 🌊 🏴☠️ 💰 😄 🙌
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